Emily

My name is Emily. I am a wife, a mother of three, and first and foremost, I am a daughter of God. Growing up I didn't aspire to much. My life's ambition resembled that of family expectation and whatever else other people thought I should do. In school I participated in programs such as band, because that's what my family did.

 

This pattern continued on in my life as I graduated high school. I attended college, not because I wanted to, but because I felt that it was expected of me, because it was my perceived "next step". I wish I could say I had a specific degree in mind, but like the many other ambitions in my life, I was there because I thought that it was what others wanted me to do. The one true motivating and self-defining ambition that I had as a teenager and into my college years, was the desire to have a boyfriend. However, since that didn't happen, I allowed myself to be defined by something I valued but didn't have. This brought feelings of worthlessness. I had a low self-esteem, constantly shaming myself, thinking I was fat and ugly.

 

As I continued on this path, I eventually found a man. Though things began to change, I soon found that the things I chose to use to define my life continued be a burden. Our first couple of years of marriage was pretty rough. A month into our marriage we were pregnant with our first child as planned (because it was the next step). For a moment, this offered my life a sense of purpose, but much like each next step brought these feelings of purpose and fulfilment, they were also short lived and followed by feelings of doubt, low self-esteem, and confusion.

 

After I had made it to this point in my life, having achieved all that I had ever envisioned for myself, I was lost. What now? Even though I had an amazing man and a wonderful baby boy, I was still lost. During this time, we went through a miscarriage, several job changes and relocations, and many other physical and faith-based challenges that prompted me to place my life in a different perspective. I began dream again. I wanted to start a successful side hustle, but every time I tried, I ended up getting in my own way, usually stopping myself before I ever gave it a chance to go somewhere. I didn't believe in myself...I didn't believe I could do it. I didn't think that my identity reflected someone who could.

 

As time went on for the next couple of years, I would continue to follow this pattern. Along the way, I had some key experiences with my husband and with my faith, that prepared me to be in a place where I could begin to grow and think differently about myself. As my husband and his brother began to more seriously purse a path of personal development, and adopting a growth mindset, I too began to refine myself before God. I began learning about myself, my habits, my thoughts, and my beliefs. I began experimenting with personal systems, setting goals, and lifestyle changes. I started to change myself into who I wanted to be rather than focusing on who I wasn't. I pursed an intentional education regarding personal growth, which eventually lead to my coaching certifications.

 

I still have a long way to go, but the growth that I have experienced this far, along with the life fulfillment that I have felt, has driven me to a new dream. I want to share what I am learning, feeling, and experiencing, with everyone that I can! This way of life has given me lasting self-fulfillment, building self-esteem, and hope for the future. I now know that my life has value, not because of what I have or don't have, not because I achieve what other expect of me, not even because of the accomplishments that I have had. My life is of tremendous value because I am a daughter of God, and my potential to become something great, is divine.

 

I can't wait to help you on your journey! I want to help you achieve your dreams! I commit to doing all that I can to helping you live the very best version of yourself. This journey is not easy, sometimes it is downright painful. But it is potentially one of the most worthwhile journeys you will ever embark on. It is my hope to join you on this journey. We deserve to see what the very best versions of ourselves are in this life, after all, we only get one.